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Four Options for How to Interpret ANY Message

Hi Friend!

I want to share this quick video with you that might help bring you clarity in your everyday interactions.

A huge part of how we receive messages from others and how those messages affect us has to do with how we interpret them. Do we hear judgement and internalize it? Do we turn judgment back onto others? Or do we hear judgement and feel compassion, for ourselves or others?

Coming this October 12-16 I’m hosting a retreat at the beautiful Whidbey Institute to discover and practice simple yet powerful skills, just like the one in this video, that will help make your interpersonal interactions more meaningful and compassionate.

Click on the image below to watch this quick video where I break down this idea of the four options we have for how to interpret any message.

Four Options for How to Interpret - Screen Shot

To learn more about this four day intensive retreat, click the link below.

Blackbelt Communication Skills Retreat at The Whidbey Institute — October 12-16, 2016

I would love to hear your thoughts! Please leave your comments below.


Nonviolent Communication Skill-Building Weekend

Where: Bodhi Creek Farm, in the Foothills of Washington State’s North Cascades
Check out the space
When: July 14-17, 2016
Arriving Thursday and leaving Sunday

Why: For people who love nature and community, and who want to grow their NVC skills.
Because it will be super fun as well as deepening.

How Much: US$450

How: Apply here!
Meals included: Thursday dinner — Sunday breakfast
Camping on the land!
— some indoor sleeping bag space available,
— other local accommodations include our friends at Baker Accommodations

Please contact us!

About Nonviolent Communication:

Marshall Rosenberg’s process Nonviolent Communication, which was named out of a sense of alignment with Gandhi’s movement of truth-telling and compassion, is a world-famous, proven, time-tested methodology:
– for creating exceptional personal and professional relationships,
– for offering compassionate understanding to others (and knowing when & how to ask for it ourselves),
– for preventing and resolving misunderstandings and conflicts,
– for speaking our truth in a way that is more likely to lead to harmony than conflict, and
– for creating mutual understanding without coercion.

About Alan Seid

I grew up bilingual and bicultural in the US and Mexico. I have been passionate about best practices for living in harmony within ourselves, with each other, and with the planet since the 1980s — and currently teach several of these methodologies. I live at a place called Bodhi Creek Farm, which I found when I was looking for a place to create a learning center for these ‘best practices’. One of these, Nonviolent Communication, I began studying in 1995 and became a Certified Trainer in in 2003. I work primarily as a coach and adviser, helping Changemakers take their life and impact to the next level.

About Bodhi Creek Farm (BCF)

BCF is comprised of 25 acres in the foothills of Washington State’s North Cascades Mountains. This land is located where mountain and wetlands come together, making it very ecologically rich. We have different kinds of frogs and salamanders, beavers, otters, several kinds of woodpeckers (the list goes on), and the forest is filled with native edible and medicinal plants. This 25 acres is part of a larger group of properties and neighbors with a long-term vision to form an ecovillage.
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Check out the space:

Modelo de los 8 Escudos

Uno de los talleres que más me han pedido pero que menos he podido ofrecer, es el taller del Modelo de los 8 Escudos.

Por fin grabé esta introducción.

El Modelo de los 8 Escudos es un patrón universal basado en sistemas naturales.

Se puede utilizar de diferentes formas, por ejemplo:
– un mapa para diseño organizacional
– una lista de control para eventos
– un diagrama de flujo para proyectos

Con el Modelo de los 8 Escudos las organizaciones pueden, entre otras cosas:
– integrar los dones diversos de cada persona para crear equipos eficaces y coherentes
– aclarar algunas cuestiones importantes, confusas, y frustrantes sobre la toma de decisiones por consenso
– aprovechar la tensión existente entre los enfoques jerárquicos e igualitarios con respecto a las funciones y el diseño organizacionales

Linaje e Historia

El Modelo de los 8 Escudos, también conocido como El Modelo de la Bellota (la semilla del roble), como la utilizamos hoy día proviene del reconocido maestro de la naturaleza Jon Young, que lo aprendió en su forma más básica del Jefe Mohawk, Jake Swamp.
(Jon me dio permiso de enseñar este modelo en el 2005.)

Si este video se te hace largo, ¡toma en cuenta que es la versión de una hora de un taller de 6 horas! 🙂

Espero que te guste, y espero con interés leer tus comentarios o preguntas.

Consulta gratis para tu éxito y desarrollo personal y profesional

Algunos enlaces en inglés:

Lo que dicen mis clientes sobre su experiencia de trabajar conmigo.

Aquí está la organización de Jon Young.

Aquí está la versión inglés de esta entrada de blog

Blackbelt Money Skills — Financial Integrity

Tools for Visioning & Manifesting

The 8-Shields Model: an Intro

I finally recorded an introduction to one of the most asked-for workshops I never do: the 8-Shields Model.

The 8-Shields Model is a universal pattern based in natural systems. It can be used in many ways, including:

– a map for organizational design
– a checklist for events
– a flowchart for projects

With the 8-Shields Model, organizations can, among other things:

– integrate people’s diverse gifts into cohesive, effective teams
– clarify some important and confusing issues regarding consensus decision-making
– harness the tension between hierarchical and egalitarian approaches to organizational design and function

The Acorn Model as we use it today comes from renowned naturalist and teacher Jon Young, who learned it in its most basic form from Mohawk Chief Jake Swamp. (Jon gave me permission to teach it in 2005.)

Two Things I’m Really Excited About

First thing:

This Summer my family and I are finally attending NVC Family Camp!

The truth about my family life is that conflicts come up, sometimes people want different things, often someone’s needs are unfulfilled. And through NVC consciousness and skills I’ve witnessed and facilitated astounding and heart-warming shifts in my family and in my relationship with my children.

After hearing about this event for years — and seeing the idea spread all over the world — we’re finally making the leap.

I will be there as another dad and participant — not planning to offer any training, but in the end I might not be able to help myself (!) 🙂

My dear friends and colleagues Barbara Larson and Doug Dolstad are the visionaries and organizers. Learn more about it here:

(Transparency Disclaimer: this is not an affiliate link. I receive no financial or other compensation. It’s an event I’m inspired about, and I thought it would be fun to be there with you.)

If you happen to know FierceLight Films and the work of amazing filmmaker Velcrow Ripper, he attended NVC Family Camp a few years ago. Out of that experience he created a film about NVC Family Camp, titled “Doing Love,” which I’ve embedded at the bottom after my second exciting anouncement.

Second thing:

The invitation and registration are now open for the 2014 Blackbelt Communication Skills NVC & Social Change Retreat, held at the Whidbey Institute on Vashon Island, (Washington State, USA) October 1-5, 2014. Check it out.

Join us for 4 days of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) immersion with a powerful group of trainers, at a cozy, rustic retreat center, with amazing, local, organic food, and a learning community of committed and compassionate learners.

Do you want to deepen your NVC skills? Do you want insights, ideas, tips, and tricks for applying NVC to making a positive difference in the world?

The retreat is structured to give you variety, choice, and immersion, regardless of your level of NVC practice.

I would love to see you there!

Please leave me a comment with questions or feedback. Thank you!