A sure-fire recipe to not do something is to tell yourself you should.
Anything done out of “duty” or obligation, shoulds or have-tos, is not nearly as enjoyable, and can easily lead to resentment either of the task or of other people.
Instead, back off until you can connect to how it serves. How does it contribute to life? What Needs does it meet?
A simple example: doing the dishes.
You can do the dishes out of a should or a have-to, or a sense of obligation. The task quickly becomes a drag – creating tension in your mind and body – and you may even resent other people for it.
Or you can connect with how doing the dishes meets your needs for health and hygiene, or order and cleanliness; or how doing the dishes aligns with your values of being a contributing member of your household.
When you are connected with the needs it will be more fun.
The energy with which we do things is just as important as the action itself.
The cost of doing things out of shoulds and have-tos is too high.
Please quit shoulding on yourself!