by Jay Darling When you have a personal crisis or get flooded emotionally, do you have backup? Of course self-soothing (or self-care) is an invaluable skill. And then there are moments when all the deep breaths, visualizations of happy puppies, or rubbing your bellybutton clockwise three times while chanting in Sanskrit language don’t work. At that […]
Being selfish versus being selfless is a good hamster-wheel-of-the-mind for spinning off confusion and guilt. If you’re selfish, all you care about is your own needs. If you’re selfless, your needs don’t enter the picture; you’re only here for others. What if serving others meets your needs? What if being only selfish ultimately results in […]
Caterpillars spend a relatively long and stable phase of their lives as caterpillars and then also a relatively long and stable period as a butterfly. But it is the time in the cocoon that is shorter and full of extraordinary transformation. Biologists found that there are cells in the caterpillar’s body which are activated in […]
“…have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point […]
I’ve had a powerful meditation lately that I’ve been trying out. I imagine that the Universe has millions of years before me and millions of years after me, and that life is short. Not too hard for me to do. And I sink into the finality of my death. In these moments my death is […]