Your inner garden
Draw a picture of what it would look like if your relationship with yourself were a committed relationship. Can you look in the mirror, and look yourself in the eye and say, “I’m here for you” — and mean it and feel it? […]
Tag: love
Another False Dichotomy: Selfish vs Selfless
Being selfish versus being selfless is a good hamster-wheel-of-the-mind for spinning off confusion and guilt. If you’re selfish, all you care about is your own needs. If you’re selfless, your needs don’t enter the picture; you’re only here for others. What if serving others meets your needs? What if being only selfish ultimately results in […]
Love and Wisdom
“When I look inside and see that I am nothing, that is wisdom. When I look outside and see that I am everything, that is love… and between those two, my life turns.” -Nisargadatta Maharaj, teacher and philosopher, 1897-1981 […]
Heaven and Hell
Years ago I trained in Aikido. Aikido is a martial art that is not based on kicking someone’s butt. Rather it is based on the ability to neutralize an attack in a way that preserves the integrity of both parties. The parallels between Aikido and Marshall Rosenberg’s process Nonviolent Communication (NVC) are rich, deep, and […]
Sex is the least private act
Sure, you can close the bedroom door. But if my sexual connection with my significant other this morning had been a bummer… …I would carry that energy with me all day. It would color every interaction I have. The energy of the most private events of your private life ripples outward and affects everything you […]