When an idealistic young person brings you their dreams or bright ideas, don’t try to ground them in reality right away. Your attempt to help will most likely be received as a wet blanket and a lack of support. (And you’ll alienate them or crush them.) The best thing you can do is listen and […]
Many times I’ve attempted to take a shortcut, and the project, or the route I was taking, ended up taking longer. I’ve noticed the high cost of this approach especially in interpersonal situations. We avoid a conversation because we don’t want conflict, but the avoidance -or the shortcut- ends up costing more in time, energy, […]
“When a man starts to learn he is never clear about his objectives. His purpose is faulty; his intent vague. He hopes for rewards that will never materialize, for he knows nothing of the hardships of learning. He slowly begins to learn–bit by bit, and then in big chunks and his thoughts soon clash. What […]
and You Reap What You Sow (revised and republished from my email newsletter) “Be the change you want to see in the world.” ~Mahatma Gandhi If you’re not getting the results you want — in your relationships or in your social change efforts — be intentional while planting seeds at the level of mind. Inspired […]
I define positive change agents as people who are committed to: making the world a better place than they found it (or improving the conditions in which others live) and making themselves better people. Both are necessary. Neither is sufficient by itself. (Personal development without care and compassion is only inwardly focused: a form of […]