Ask yourself what you want, and then ask one of the following two questions: If you had that, then what would you have? If you had that, what would that give you? These two questions will take you deeper and deeper to universal human needs. Try it. And if you have any questions, enter them […]
I’ve been working hard, building the “Blackbelt Communication Skills Coaching Program.” This is an online program that will include about 50 training videos, monthly Q&A/Coaching calls, a live event (and a few extra surprises). I’m very excited and I know this program will benefit many people! But I realize the term Blackbelt may confuse a […]
In yesterday’s post I suggested volunteering locally or running for local office. Here’s a story from a time I did that, in which my high level of communication skills made a difference. The scenario I was appointed by our county government to serve on a committee creating a 20-year plan for the area in which […]
When an idealistic young person brings you their dreams or bright ideas, don’t try to ground them in reality right away. Your attempt to help will most likely be received as a wet blanket and a lack of support. (And you’ll alienate them or crush them.) The best thing you can do is listen and […]
Rather than too much conflict, an even greater problem in the world is the widespread avoidance of conflict. We’re just not good at conflict. So we avoid it, which in many cases creates more conflict. Underneath our conflict-avoidant compulsion is usually a universal need for harmony, along with needs for ease and conservation of energy. […]