Rather than too much conflict, an even greater problem in the world is the widespread avoidance of conflict. We’re just not good at conflict. So we avoid it, which in many cases creates more conflict. Underneath our conflict-avoidant compulsion is usually a universal need for harmony, along with needs for ease and conservation of energy. […]
Many times I’ve attempted to take a shortcut, and the project, or the route I was taking, ended up taking longer. I’ve noticed the high cost of this approach especially in interpersonal situations. We avoid a conversation because we don’t want conflict, but the avoidance -or the shortcut- ends up costing more in time, energy, […]
and You Reap What You Sow (revised and republished from my email newsletter) “Be the change you want to see in the world.” ~Mahatma Gandhi If you’re not getting the results you want — in your relationships or in your social change efforts — be intentional while planting seeds at the level of mind. Inspired […]
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I work with “positive change agents” which I define as people committed to making the world a better place AND making themselves better people. We call ourselves many names: cultural creatives, social entrepreneurs, change makers, sustainability activists, and evolutionaries, among others. Making change in the world is not enough. I’ve seen the incredible shortfalls that […]